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πŸŽ‡ Image of The Week

Upside-down fig tree in Bacoli, Italy. "No one is quite sure how the tree ended up there or how it survived, but year after year it continues to grow downwards and bear figs."

πŸ“– Stories Are Tools For The Living

Our lives are interwoven with stories, whether they are bedtime tales from our childhood, historical lessons from the classroom, or thrilling blockbuster movies on the big screen. These narratives brim with patterns, qualities, and characteristics that shape our perspectives. However, it's crucial not to mistake life for a story, expecting it to follow a prescribed path.

Stories are not meant to replicate life, but to enrich it. They serve as a treasure trove of wisdom, from which we can learn valuable lessons and adopt the admirable traits of our favorite heroes. Life doesn't often come with a neat bow, a grand conclusion, or a final page where everything makes sense and all loose ends are tied up.

The grand narrative of life continues to unfold, and our role within it is not to strive for a storybook existence but to embrace the lessons and inspiration that stories provide. By emulating the virtues, courage, and bravery of our favorite characters in our unique way, we open ourselves up to life's experiences.

Remember that one day, our songs will no longer be sung by us, but the melodies we leave behind will be carried on by those who cherished us. The story of life, then, does not conclude with a dramatic crescendo but reverberates in the hearts of those we've touched, as they continue to sing our song and weave our legacy into the grand tapestry of existence.

πŸ’— Small Kindness

Enjoy this beautiful reminder from Danusha LamΓ©ris:

I've been thinking about the way, when you walk down a crowded aisle, people pull in their legs to let you by. Or how strangers still say "bless you" when someone sneezes, a leftover from the Bubonic plague. "Don't die," we are saying.

And sometimes, when you spill lemons from your grocery bag, someone else will help you pick them up. Mostly, we don't want to harm each other.

We want to be handed our cup of coffee hot, and to say thank you to the person handing it. To smile at them and for them to smile back. For the waitress to call us honey when she sets down the bowl of clam chowder, and for the driver in the red pick-up truck to let us pass.

We have so little of each other, now. So far from tribe and fire. Only these brief moments of exchange.

What if they are the true dwelling of the holy, these fleeting temples we make together when we say, "Here, have my seat," "Go ahead-you first," "I like your hat."

πŸ€“ Learn This Word

Levensgenieter: A dutch word that describes someone who loves life deeply; is devoted

⏳ From The Archives

A hand-picked classic HighExistence article.

The Paradox of Grief: 8 Gifts We Gain From Loss

Heartbreak is how we mature; yet we use the word heartbreak as if it only occurs when things have gone wrong: an unrequited love, a shattered dream, a child lost before their time. Heartbreak, we hope, is something we hope we can avoid; something to guard against, a chasm to be carefully looked for and then walked around; the hope is to find a way to place our feet where the elemental forces of life will keep us in the manner to which we want to be accustomed and which will keep us from the losses that all other human beings have experienced without exception since the beginning of conscious time. But heartbreak may be the very essence of being human, of being on the journey from here to there, and of coming to care deeply for what we find along the way.” David Whyte

Loss and heartbreak are inexorable challenges that we all must face in our lives.

We all are eventually forced to let go, often before we’re ready to say goodbye.

This is commonly accompanied by excruciating pain and utter devastation. The loss causes us to lose our compass. Our sense of direction is compromised as our imagined future has dissolved before our eyes.

We’re all awaiting this kind of grief-stricken destruction. But this is not a case for despair.

For as challenging as loss and heartbreak can be, the grieving process can be the birthplace of profound gifts.

The paradox of grief is that it is simultaneously world-ending and life-enchanting.

We might not know it at the time, but our letting go is not just that.

Letting go is also grabbing on.

Grabbing on to an opportunity.

An opportunity to discover the gifts previously hidden from view by the world that had come before.

Our plans go up in smoke as the rug gets pulled out from under us.

We fall. But into what?

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